if God knows everything, and He knows how everything is going to work out in the end....He must know who we are supposed to be with. that person however may not wind up with us because of our free will as human beings. but He does know who we will wind up with; who we will choose even if He did not create that particular person for us.
so then, if He places someone in your life several times, are you supposed to pay attention to that? does that mean that that is the person you are supposed to be with? i think so. and if you don't pay attention to that i guess you wind up with someone else. this is very upsetting to me. what if God places them there, but you just don't see that repetition? what if?
how are we supposed to change this? i don't think that we can...i wish that we could see it happening, but i don't think that we can.